Not sure if you remember that I couple weeks ago maybe I mentioned that ever since the new semester started Jacky seemed kinda weird and cold and everything... and like every time I talked to her she seemed bothered. Well, when I had discussed this with want teacher she told me the following (note: she has alwyas given me very good advice-much in regards to cultural aspects and all which has been extremely helpful)
Wang teacher (pretty much what she said, obviously not exactly): I think its not that Jacky doesnt want to talk to you. But becuase the new semester has started and you have a new co-teacher she wants to give you space so that you can become close with your new co-teacher. You see, right now you are very close to her and she to you. But the new teachers that have come in do not know how your relationship with her is. So she probably wants to give them time to slowly see/to let them see how you two are together. Also, if she stays as close to you as she has been up until now, it wont give your new co-teacher the opportunity to get close to you and build a relationship with you becuase you will want to go to Jacky still for whatever you need, and you'll wanna talk to her and get HER advice.... and not the other teacher's. So just give it time. That is just how korean culture works. She is just giving you and the new teacher space.
now when she said this to me, it actually made a lot of sense. And i was hoping she was right, because it was killing me to feel ignored by Jacky. And I felt like maybe I had done something wrong or that maybe she was mad at me for something. ... i dunno. guess i just was not sure what to think. But thank goodness she was right.
Just over maybe this past week or so Jacky has been warming up to me again and our relationship has started to go back to where it was before- all which makes me happy. I really missed just talking to her in the morning, seeing her smile, and being silly. I love it how when we are together we behave like five year olds and like to give each other a hard time. Anyways.... way to go Wang teacher! You rock
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